A couple weeks ago
was at the end of her rope. She was grumpy and on edge, you could say she
was a loose cannon. I was beginning to see a pattern during her working
days lately. You see
goes to school on Monday, Wednesday and Fridays and then works with us at
Dowco on Tuesday and Thursday. This sounds good in theory but problems
arise when after working from 8-5 you come home and still have all your
homework to do. The week of midterms was her breaking point. We had an
emotional conversation where she told me that while she is working all she
can think about is the tons of schoolwork she has waiting to be done.
told me that she wanted to get straight Aís this semester. We had a
conversation and I suggested that she make a presentation to her Dad who
is also her boss and ask for fewer hours on Tuesday and Thursday.
was so proud of her as she made a logical thoughtful presentation to
Maurice. Upon completion he recommended that she make the same
presentation to our office staff and solicit their support.
and I both went back to our desks and I waited for her to call the office
staff together to present her proposal. I waited a while longer and then I
sent her an interoffice email questioning why she didnít call the staff
together for her presentation. She replied that she didnít think they
would understand that she didnít have enough time and she was going to
just suck it up and do it. Which is just what she did.
worked all her hours and did not request to change them, but what I
noticed was that once she realized that she could, that she had options,
then her personality changed. Before she was ready to fly off the handle,
but once she realized that she had alternatives I noticed that she was
poised and in control. I think that is the key she felt in control.
could ask for fewer hours and she could make changes.
That simple mindset made all the difference for her. Most of the
time we can do whatever we want, yes there are repercussions, yes there
may be a price to pay, but really we are in control of our life and we do
have options. Sometimes it helps to know that you have options, even if
you donít chose to take them.
ďThe strongest principle
of growth lies in human choice.Ē Ė George Eliot