"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover."

Mark Twain

Out of gas?

ďIím out of gas,Ē Maurice told me. I tried not to smirk. He had just left for work  a couple minutes earlier and walked back in the door. Why the smirk? Because he always drives with the empty light on, and I rarely do. When I get down to about a quarter of a tank, I fill up. It irritated and unnerved me that he stretched to see just how far he could go before he had to fill up. Gottcha! 

Kelly on the lineWhen Kelly played soccer and field hockey she was taught to go after the ball until the referee said that it was out. Never quit because the ball went out or is close to going out, quit after the ref makes the call. This philosophy was hammered into her and it made for interesting parenting because her learned tenacity carried over into all aspects of her life. Does no really mean NO? Let me try and see. 

I think we all test boundaries. Push the envelope, see just how far we can go, Iím guilty of it too. When I turned 40 I started running to do a marathon.  While training I ran a couple road races and guess what? I got some hardware (in running terms that means I placed and got a medal, plaque or trophy.)  OOOOH did I like that! Way Cool.  Suddenly I was racing and trying to run long all on the same weekend. I got shin splints and didnít do the marathon I had trained for. It ended up taking 21 months until I ran my first one.  In sports you do it a lot. You exert to the point where you think you will finish with nothing left in the tank. Unfortunately it is difficult to predict when the tank will run out. Shorter races are easy just blast off and go. Add more variables and it gets interesting: weather, length of time, nutrition, course difficulty, mechanical issues, mental toughness, digestion and bathroom issues all factor in to the results. 

Ready to go!Last year during the swim portion of a triathlon I went out way too fast. I had a hard time breathing. Later I talked to my coach Tom and he said ďOh, you red lined.Ē  I asked what to do and basically he said drop it down a notch and get your breathing back in order. Umm, yeah, you need to breathe.  Here is an interesting breakdown on swimming levels

Five levels of training specificity for swimming are:

So I red-lined. What do you call it when you go over your red line and canít breathe? A miscalculation, but more than that call it growth. You really donít grow until you push beyond your comfort level. Growth involves risk and discomfort. Being self employed involves a lot of risk, because if you make a mistake, you pay. There is no safety net. If you make a mistake you calculate how to get yourself out of it. You analyze how it happened, what went wrong and what to do next time. You figure out a short term strategy and a long term preventative measure. You accept responsibility. On the other hand when it works, you accept the rewards. If you stretch and grow you are fully engaged, completely involved. Wow, and when it works, when it clicks, what could be better than that? 

"Every day, you'll have opportunities to take chances and to work outside your safety net. Sure, it's a lot easier to stay in your comfort zone.. in my case, business suits and real estate.. but sometimes you have to take risks. When the risks pay off, that's when you reap the biggest rewards."

Donald Trump