I have a dresser near my bed and there is space to walk in front of it. When I pack for a trip I usually place my suitcase on the floor and fill it up. Last time however; I forgot about the suitcase and when I got up during the night I tripped and stumbled over it. I was packing again and decided to push it a little further from my bed, so I would not trip over it in the night. This was fine if I only walked to the bathroom, but I left the room and came back and took a head first dive. I ended up scrapping and bruising both knees, an ankle and elbow. It hurt. While I was icing my sore spots I was aggravated. I did it again. Again!
This spring I have tipped on my bike twice, lately Iíve been pretty rough on my body. The unfortunate part of learning is that when you make mistakes there is usually a price to pay. I hate paying the price over and over. Yet in some areas of my life I don't change and therefore I suffer the same consequences again and again. Sometimes it seems that I take steps forward and then hop back. Whatís annoying is that I am trying to go forward. This is not what I want.
We are supposed to learn from our mistakes and logically you would think this would equate to changing behavior. It just doesnít work that way for me. Pain and the fear of pain work well, you can bet that suitcase is not going to be in my path any more. I tripped over it twice and wonít again. Suitcase in the way = falling and hurting myself. Thatís nice and straight forward. I have no attachment to the suitcase; there are no feelings or emotions involved. It gets difficult when correcting a mistake involves doing something that you do not want to do. Itís challenging when learning from your mistake equates to an unpleasant task. Maybe that is where the saying ďIgnorance is bliss,Ē comes from.
am I going with all this? Did you ever make a mistake that illuminated an area
in your life you needed to fix up? A shortcoming, a habit you needed to correct?
Instead of dwelling on the mistake, what if you were to look at areas in your
life where you had been successful and apply those principles? Instead of
focusing on what you do wrong and keep doing wrong, what if instead you measured
what you did right? I have decided to study what works for me and apply it in
rather than get bogged down dwelling on my mistakes and failures. What works for
all heard that we have to learn from our mistakes, but I think it's more
important to learn from successes. If you learn only from your mistakes, you are
inclined to learn only errors." - Norman Vincent Peale